A Mother’s Love Is Like.. 


Yesterday was Mother’s Day. It was a lovely and wonderful day to just reflect on where I started as a mother and where I am now. I spoke to my mother yesterday wishing her a happy Mother’s Day and in our discussion I shared my latest blog post. It segwayed us into a perfect conversation of gratitude for each other.

When you consider what a mother’s love is, it is complex. It is gentle, understanding, nurturing, and allows us space to learn from our own mistakes and express ourselves. A Mother’s love allows time and encourages us to learn and to heal. But do not take for granted a mother’s love. A mother’s love can be fierce! Fierce not only in protection of her children but in being that reality check that we need.

All that that is and encompasses is how I would describe my energy work. It is typically a hands-on process that is ever so sweet and considerate of the individual allowing them the space and time to heal. Recognizing their own weaknesses and strengths and letting the weaknesses become strengths.

It is helping the body become stronger allowing the spirit to enjoy the vessel. It relaxes muscles. It works on the subconscious mind releasing the perceptions others may have imposed or perceptions that have been taken on that do not resonate with the individual any longer.

My energy work takes an individual out of the trauma state and into a state of allowance. It is in that simplicity that people shed their density and oftentimes lose weight! It helps create emotional stability, calming the central nervous system, the digestive system and encouraging all  body systems to work perfectly and harmoniously together! It helps put the individual in touch with their spiritual self and with God, allowing for better intuitive guidance and self reliance.

After a session the individual looks like they are almost weightless. They’ve relaxed not just their physical body but expanded their energetic body so that they feel lighter and yet bigger because they feel they no longer have to conceal themselves to fit in. They allow themselves to be enjoyed and received just as they are and in turn encourage others to do the same. It is amazing what a session can do, shifting someone’s reality because they show up differently and therefore those around them have no choice but to show up differently too!

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A Mother’s Message to Her Child: I Will Wait For You

As I was meditating today I was listening to Mumford & Sons, “I Will Wait” and a thought occurred to me: parenting is very much a waiting process. It is like the unfolding of a flower. My son is a seed that was planted and has sprouted. I long to see the flower that he blossoms into. At that very moment it occurred to me that my son has been waiting for me to blossom! He has grown with me from shedding my selfish ways into taking ownership of being a parent and not just any parent, but one who advocates for him.

I don’t usually run in the mornings, I usually walk and meditate. Today was different; this morning was filled with mosquitoes outside and I didn’t want to have a miserable experience, I wanted to enjoy. As I was running I was thanking myself, my body, God for the capability to run. I used to run anywhere from 2 to 4 miles per day. It was my way of releasing the day.

When I first met my husband he ran seven to ten miles a day. As simple as this thought may sound, it was rather empowering:

When my husband and I ran together he slowed down because he was a faster runner and he could do the seven to ten miles. He was never resentful that I couldn’t keep his pace. He wanted to enjoy time with me so he ran at my pace. He never passed judgement thinking, “Wow, you’re too slow what’s wrong with you? Why can’t you keep up?” It was always about our time together enjoying each other wherever we were.

I realized, in today’s highly demanding society where everything is about getting it now, we are doing that exact thing to our children.

Special needs or not, we are demanding a lot of our children. We are demanding them to grow up sooner than they should. We are demanding that they have an understanding of our world instead of us understanding they are just adapting to their own and ours.

We need to take a step back and realize that our children are the seeds that we planted in the soil, our family. That we are the gardeners tending to them making sure that they get the proper fertilizer, learning. That the weather conditions don’t drown them out or wilt them, that they don’t lose themselves in society’s perspectives of who they are. That we prune them at the right time so that they become stronger for who they are meant to be not for who we want them to be.

We also need to recognize that we have a very symbiotic relationship with our children. That as we become better gardeners tending to our children, it is their beauty they reveal that brings us joy. As we revel and soak in their beauty, we share our tenderness and there is the reciprocation. It is a simple yet profound energy exchange.

#PiperWai @PiperWai: Natural Deodorant Discovered thru @ABCSharkTank

When I was a young girl my mother insisted that I use a deodorant and not an antiperspirant. I was quite young, 10 years old, when I first needed to start using deodorant. We tried more natural solutions like milk of magnesia and baking soda with some lemon juice. But none of these worked. I tried regular over-the-counter deodorants and still did not find satisfaction with those products. 
When I went to college I sought out antiperspirants. To my surprise they worked! I refused to accept the fact that antiperspirants actually had aluminum in them and that aluminum could actually cause any long term side effects. At that time, I cared that I didn’t smell.*

Fast forward to a few years ago. I had gone to an acupuncturist who recommended that I stop using antiperspirant as it was causing toxicity within my body. Although I had benefited from not being odorous, my body was not detoxifying itself and there in my armpit area was where I sweat the most. We have a set of lymph nodes there. The lymph system is where we take out our garbage, so to speak. We eliminate our toxins emotionally and physically through the lymph system. I had tried a couple years back prior to this appointment to use deodorant only, but found that living in hot, steamy Florida and constantly sweating created rashes and so I returned to antiperspirants to my dismay. When I shared this information with the practitioner, she calmly said, “Your body needs to detoxify.” I reluctantly switched. I started my search once again for a perfect deodorant. I thought I found one finally that was a roll-on of a salt rock crystal deodorant. It worked…mostly. I still encountered days that I sweat more and on those days I knew it wasn’t as effective as I needed. 

I sweat during sessions as I run energy. I notice I get rather warm and often sweat under my arms, profusely. I had a client ask me for a hug in the middle of a session and I immediately apologized for my sweatiness as I hugged her. It displeased me that I couldn’t feel confident at that particular moment to feel perfectly comfortable as I was helping her to be more comfortable. 

Then, within the last several months my husband and I were watching Shark Tank and saw a presentation on PiperWai an all natural deodorant that claimed to help with the absorption of sweat and also to be more than effective in fighting odor. With nothing to lose, I bought 2 jars.

I had tried other deodorants that had essential oils before, but didn’t seem to help with the absorption of sweat. 

This deodorant is all natural, without any aluminum. I opened the jar and liked the smell which is neither masculine or feminine in scent. When I applied it to my underarms, I felt an immense cooling sensation. I have to say, it works. I notice it worked well in the cooler months with the sweat absorption but over the summer when it got warmer, the absorption factor isn’t as strong as I would like. The other thing I don’t like is that it is a paste. Closer to the end of the bottle, the paste gets rather flaky and becomes a task of trying to get the deodorant to go on smoothly without flaking all over the bathroom sink or floor. I recently viewed their Facebook page where they suggest a drop of witch hazel to regain original consistency.

I took a couple months off from using this product. Simply because I had run out of it and had other deodorants still in stock in my cabinet. After going back to my crystal salt deodorant it worked for two weeks. I was excited because I thought maybe my body had changed. But after those two weeks when I was excessively sweating, there was nothing at the end of the day leaving me confident Needless to say, I reordered my PiperWai deodorant and have now been using it again for a month and I’m quite pleased.

I know they are considering making it into a roll-on.  I don’t mind the paste. Unlike most pastes it does not have a sticky residue feel to it. Instead, it feels clean and smooth. At first glance the price seems steep, but depending on your usage a single jar should last anywhere from 2-4months. I  highly recommend this product to anyone, male or female with similar problems or looking for a healthier alternative. 
*I have chosen to include various resources pro and against claims of aluminum causing breast cancer or Alzheimer’s disease. Please use your own judgement.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/features/antiperspirant-facts-safety

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/02/16/aluminum-lurks-in-crystal-deodorants.aspx#!

http://www.cancer.org/cancer/cancercauses/othercarcinogens/athome/antiperspirants-and-breast-cancer-risk

New Research Indicates Aluminum in Deodorant Linked To Breast Cancer

Why Do We Need Energy Work?

Why do we need #energy work? Because we are all energetic beings and we all understand that we go through days where we have more energy and other days where we have barely any to get through. To me it just seems simple that we would all need energy work… an understood thing.
But as I have done more sessions and individuals process differently, I thought I would share what came to me in a session I did recently. It came to me in more layman terms so I am going to share just like that….
Let’s say you are preparing to move. Part of the mental process is to let go of your old space and prepare for the new one. Although it sounds pretty simple it’s not. Preparing for a move takes energy, which when in the process, can be rather draining because it’s one more thing to do on top of working, taking care of our family and ourselves. Whether it is a big or small move, moving takes time, preparation and organization.
 When you are moving you have to decide what you are going to take with you and what you are going to discard or giveaway. Because you want your new place to feel like you…but better! So you pack everything that you want to take with you and you sort through and decide which items bit by bit are not coming with you. Usually, when moving, you are in the midst of a balancing act. First comes taking care of family then work and caring for yourself then moving, though not always in that perfect order. But moving nonetheless is happening whether it is in the forefront or in the background. It is stressful even if it might be to a bigger more beautiful home, it still is stress.
The same thing happens during my energy work sessions for my clients. The client has decided that they need and are ready to move forward however that may be for them in whatever life circumstance they are experiencing. It is an appointment that they make with #Divine and I am strictly the facilitator helping them let go of what they no longer need so that they can move forward being true to themselves and therefore feeling lighter. Essentially, they become the new home. They still have their basic traits and basic core of who they are, but without the unnecessary weightedness of and necessary burdens they have taken on throughout their life.
It is always amazing to be witness to someone else’s #transcendence. To see where they were and where they are now and for them to acknowledge how their perspectives change. Or they witness how their bodies change because they are processing life differently which is affecting them on a mental, emotional, spiritual and therefore physical level. More so, how alleviating them from their densities, they are now affecting their world positively and #enlightening others around them. 
That is why we all need energy work. That is why I enjoy doing what I do.
Thank you @Oprah for your wonderful quote.

Handwriting without Tears or Frustration

I went shopping yesterday and found a solution that I had been looking for and wasn’t sure I’d ever find it. I was in a big national retail store shopping through the $1 and $3 section and found this chalkboard stand for $3. To anyone else, it might not have come across as a solution for teaching handwriting. I thought I’d share with you in case you are in the same need as me.

I don’t know what your experience has been with your child and fine motor tasks, but mine has been challenging. Children with low muscle tone, as most with Down syndrome have, creates and bit of harder work accomplishing what we with regular muscle tone take for granted. My son is now 6 years old and entering first grade. Ever since I can remember, fine motor tasks that would have been considered fun, have lasted mere minutes or seconds, kneading dough, playing play doh, even coloring. My son enjoys being more physically active and that is where his strength is.

After last year’s IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) meeting where I was asking for additional support and having to change his end of year goals, I felt stuck between a rock and a hard place. Not only did I not get the additional occupational therapy support I was asking for, I felt that his goals were then reduced to lower expectations which made me very uncomfortable. Needless to say, that discomfort lit a fire inside me to make sure that no matter what, my son and I would somehow work on fine motor, especially handwriting over the summer.

The wonderful thing is that with today’s technology, there are apps for handwriting. Because we use the iPad as a reward system, we needed to look at a more tangible way for him to practice handwriting and limit his electronic usage.

We had been introduced to the Handwriting without Tears (1) methodology a couple years ago by an occupational therapist though the school system. I tried it with Jack last summer, but he wasn’t motivated to try it nor was I consistent. 

As I have written about before, sleep has been a major concern within our household. Because that was a major focus to get resolved this summer, whenever Jack would awaken early and refuse to go back to sleep, it gave me an indirect incentive to get him to either choose “ go back to sleep or practice handwriting, your choice.”

What I needed to do to make the chalkboard stand easier for him to use is to remove the backing to it that helped it be propped to stand. It was rather simple and only took a flat head screwdriver and hammer. Then the back was completely flat and with it turned upside down, he used the tray holder as a way to hold onto it while he wrote.


This morning after an uninterrupted night’s sleep but an early morning start, of 5:30 it was time to try it out. With hand over hand instruction, Jack was quickly able to follow the edges to make a capital L. After 10 attempts on the small chalkboard, I asked him to do it independently on his easel. It was the clearest L he had written!

1. http://www.hwtears.com/hwt

          

Sleeping with the Harmonic Energetic Balancing Program, an Adjunct to Biofeedback

Sleep. All of us need it. We die if we do not have it. It is necessary for repairing our body systems. It helps us stay emotionally balanced and without it it makes us irritable. 
For almost 3 years, my family has been sleep deprived because our son has continually awakened in the night. At first we attributed it to the fact that our son had 3 recurring ear infections which kept prompting him to awaken in the middle of the night. Then we thought that maybe it was school related as he had started in a pre-k program. Then we assumed that it was due to our neighbors coming home in the late hours of the night.

We tried everything: talking to the pediatrician and getting a sleep study to assess sleep apnea which is typical of children with Down syndrome. We tried all sorts of alternative medicine, from melatonin, color puncture, body talk, biofeedback, aura clearings, Sacred Geometries, even essential oils. Sometimes Jack would sleep through the night, but typically no more than two nights in a row. I had tried doing my own energy work on Jack; sometimes it would help, other times it wouldn’t.  

I recently visited Integrity Biofeedback to find out more about their H.E.B. (Harmonic Energetic Balancing) Program.

“The H.E.B. balances the disharmonious energies of the body due to stress, thus strengthening the immune system and protecting it against the onslaught of accumulated and daily stressors.” 1

After seeing it in person and then reading about it on their website, I wanted it! It resonated with everything I wanted for my family. So, three weeks ago I put myself, my husband and my son on it. Jack slept through the night the first night from 8p.m. until 6 a.m. We were delighted. But just as quickly, it stopped and so the following week I put our condominium on the H.E.B. He slept for almost a week uninterrupted. On the night he awoke he went back to sleep easily and on his own and that day I added his room onto the H.E.B. and sleep resumed. Now after 2 weeks, Jack has slept through the night all but 2 nights. 
What was most notable were the minute simplicities we benefited from.

Each time I changed the affirmation, I noticed Jack awoke happier. The first morning after I put him on the H.E.B. he greeted us with, “Good Morning!” And hugged both Doug and I with amazing loving hugs. When I changed the affirmation a few days later, he awoke and said, “Merry Christmas!” (Which happens to be one of his favorite holidays and ours too.) The last time I changed it he greeted Doug saying, “It’s a great day!” Not once did I share with Jack that I had put him on this system, but the effects were simply undeniable.

These were not the only noticeable changes. Jack seems calmer. Where there were things that previously would have frustrated him and caused him to moan and groan, like doing a certain app on the iPad, he calmly stopped that behavior and instead has walked out of his room and asked either of us for assistance. Reasoning with him has gotten easier again. First this, then that, whatever that is for him that he wants. 

The most noticeable change is in the last week. I have struggled getting Jack to allow me to help him with handwriting skills. It has been a major bone of contention and became something I avoided because it had become so difficult to get him to want to color, draw, play play dough or anything having to do with occupational therapy and developing those fine motor skills. Now, he can sit attend and will do it with little to no argumentation.Yesterday his occupational therapist made the same observation.
Just two days ago I noticed something else I hadn’t noticed before. We had to get Jack’s prescription lenses replaced. This typically would take a minimum of 15 minutes and would entail him wanting to leave the store or grabbing everything in sight. Yesterday, he entered calmly, sat down and for the entire time waited patiently. When he started getting a little restless, I reminded him that we were going to do a fun activity and to remember to “belly breathe.” That’s all it took and he sat and waited. 

For myself, I have noticed that my body is able to handle more when working out. I have started running again just a few times a week as I used to run 2-4 a day. I notice I need fewer chiropractic adjustments even after running, something that would have aggravated my body before. I handle certain stressors better.

For Doug, he is calmer and is less stressed.

Nothing is perfect. But our life has definitely improved in the last three weeks. Jack still has his moments, like any child, though they are less intense. Even better, we all find ourselves calmer and able to take a moment and adjust ourselves and our responses to each given situation.

1. Harmonic Energetic Balancing Program
2. Cynthia Sharpe

Ask and You Shall Recieve

Ask and You Shall Recieve

  It is familiar phrase that we have often heard, “ask and you shall receive. “It is something that was stated in the Bible and has made its greatest impression upon me recently.

As a child, my parents often impressed upon me the importance of asking my teachers or anyone I was involved with for help. It was difficult for me as I was shy and sometimes it was that I didn’t want to seem as if I couldn’t do it myself.
Becoming a parent and having a child with special needs, has made me more comfortable asking for what I need and or reaching out to people and seeing if they can help me get what I need. 
This simple phrase has truly facilitated my healing sessions with individuals. It sounds rather simple, yet we can all do it and ask for assistance from each other and/or from Divine.
I remember the first time I was asked to work on a cancer patient. He was a family member I had never met, who had been recently diagnosed with terminal cancer and was given just a couple months to live. It was a last resort for the family. He didn’t want to do any type of cancer treatment and so I was requested to do a session. He was up north, I was here in Florida. I asked permission from his soul to work on him and from God to facilitate his best and highest healing, to give him a quality life in his last days. 
What transpired dumbfounded me. Not only was his life extended a couple more months so that he could resolve any family matters…he never went on any pain medications. Most importantly, he lived his last days comfortably.
I remember a client I got who wanted something specific worked on. This client had daymares that had transpired from nightmares and were all consuming her life during the day. She wanted to be rid of these daymares as they were causing near death incidences. I asked for permission to work on these specifically. I gave her the information of where they stemmed from, something from childhood that had been left unresolved. She had not been able to sleep throughout the night for quite some time and her driving was being impeded by these visions. After our session she slept throughout the night and her daymares completely ceased.
It is important that we all remember to “ask.” A massage therapist I recently worked on used this technique with one of her clients. She was trying to help her client release a chronic symptom, a shoulder that needed releasing. She had massaged this client several months and finally, while she was massaging her asked, “What would it take for her shoulder to release?” Low and behold, the shoulder moved perfectly into place and she and her client were relieved. 
We are all connected. We can truly effect each other positively or negatively from near or far. When we ask and are in tune with what is in our best interest or that of someone else’s best interest, we really can receive. In receiving we are not selfish. In fact, we allow others to feel gratitude in being of assistance. We co-create a reciprocal relationship of positive give and take. In so doing, we create more positivity in the world.